By May 8, 2014

Your Belief Determines Your Reality

Your belief directly determines your ability to accomplish a goal. The trick is changing your beliefs. You can't just tell yourself that pigs can fly and then believe it. It takes serious effort to control your beliefs, but when you learn this skill, you'll be unstoppable.

Think and Grow Rich
The New Psycho-Cybernetics


Full transcript:

John:               Hey, John Sonmez from and I’ve got a question for you.  Have you ever found yourself in a situation where something seems really, really difficult and you just cannot seem to succeed at it?  Well, if you have, I’ve got the solution for you coming up next.

We’ve all been in that situation before where we’re trying to do something that’s really difficult, that seems impossibly hard to us.  Most of the time, to be honest, we just give up.  We just think it’s too hard.  We give up.  We go another way.  I’ve been in that situation a lot of times in my life and I have given up many times before, but I’ve also not given up.  I’m kind of a stubborn guy.  I don’t like to give up very easily.  I’ll just keep on banging my head against the wall until the wall breaks.

What’s really interesting about that is sometimes the wall does break which is something that I think a lot of people don’t really understand or they don’t think about which is that if you keep trying you will eventually succeed.  One of the key ways to be able to keep trying and to eventually succeed when you do is by changing your belief.

What tends to be true about reality is that what you believe becomes reality.  It really influences your ability to do something.  If you believe that you can’t do something then you really can’t do it because your brain tells your subconscious mind that you can’t do it and that in turn is a regulator on your whole system, on your whole body, on yourself and you can’t do anything that you truly believe that you can’t do.

You have to be able to defeat that mechanism by the power of belief which is really complicated.  Well, it’s not so complicated so much as it’s difficult to change your beliefs because you can’t directly influence your belief.

For example, try and believe right now that pigs can fly.  No matter how hard you try you will not be able to believe that unless you’re already crazy.  Really, when you think about it you can’t just believe whatever you want.  You’re not actually responsible for your beliefs, or are you?

Well, the way that you can influence your beliefs is by using—and I hate to use this self help term, but affirmation.  It’s basically repeatedly telling yourself something until it seeps into your subconscious and you actually believe it.  If you continually do this and I’ve talked about faking it until you make it.  Some of faking it until you make it is really wrapped up in this.  If you continually do this, what will happen is that over time you will convince yourself that you believe a certain thing and then you’re going to be able to succeed at that thing.

This is actually a concept, I’m not just a whacko out here telling you to give yourself positive affirmations and then you will believe something and then you will achieve something.  It’s actually something that if you look at a lot of really popular books and really successful people that have read these books they’re going to point back to this one thing.  I’ll give you 2 books here.

The first one is Think and Grow Rich.  It’s an older book.  The title says Think and Grow Rich.  Sure, it’s a catchy title.  It’s kind of a weird book but has a lot of truth to it and the core to it is this idea that you’re basically telling yourself a thing until you believe it.  Once you believe that thing, then you’re brain automatically works to send you on the path to achieve that thing.

Another book that’s basically the same type of message but a little bit less metaphysical, a little bit more scientific is called Psycho-Cyberkinetics.  In fact, that one sounds less scientific but it is.  It’s an older book.  It’s kind of considered the first self help book, the landmark one.  A lot of golfers use this book.  A lot of professional sports athletes do but it is basically the same idea.  In that book the author goes through and he basically tells you that your mind is a goal seeking machine and he tells you how you can preprogram your mind to seek out those goals.  It all hinges on this idea of belief.

If you can make your subconscious believe something to be true and the way that you do that, the author recommends in that book is visualization, a lot of it and doing these affirmations, basically seeing the result, seeing the success, convincing yourself it’s true.  When you do that then you change your belief.  When you change your belief then you’re more likely to succeed.

If you’ve been facing a problem that you just can’t seem to conquer, the step that you might need to do is not to keep trying.  Obviously you’re going to have to keep trying to succeed, but maybe you need to step back and you need to change your beliefs about a subject.  Do you really believe that you can succeed?  If not, how can you change your mindset?  It might be as simple as just visualizing what success looks like over and over again and seeing yourself actually succeed at this thing.  Or it might be giving those positive affirmations saying, “Yes, I can do this.”  It sounds really cheesy, believe me, I realized that this sounds cheesy but it actually works.

If you can keep on saying it, if you can keep on telling yourself this thing then you will actually become that thing.  You will actually change your belief and then you will have success.

I hope that has been helpful to you.  It’s definitely something that has helped me a lot in my life.  I try to remember that and use that.  I try to think there’s nothing I can’t succeed at as long as I’m willing to put in the work and change my beliefs regarding that subject.

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About the author

John Sonmez

John Sonmez is the founder of Simple Programmer and a life coach for software developers. He is the best selling author of the book "Soft Skills: The Software Developer's Life Manual."