By February 22, 2018

It’s OK To Quit And Change Your Job!

Have you ever dealt with guilt when you thought about quitting and changing your job? I'm pretty sure you've gone through that, right?

A lot of people, as soon as they think about changing jobs (and changing their lives). Guilt grows inside of them and they start re-thinking all of their previous choices. I've gone through that myself. Recently I made the decision of quitting Simple Programmer. And I must say it was one of the most difficult decisions of my life.

But it's ok… Wanna know why? Watch this video and find out!

Transcript Of The Video

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So I got a question today that I figured I would answer. It's kind of a long one, but I think it's worth answering and reading, because it's a good one. It's entitled: Stuck in IT. And I'll just dive into this here, 'cause I think this was a good one. I've had this on my board for a while, and I haven't answered it because it was so long, but now is the time. Today is the day. No more saving stuff for later.
All right, so this starts out; I've been working in the IT field since 2006, 11 years, but unfortunately, the only role I've ever had in IT is within the IT support area. It's the area no one wants to be. It is commonly the area where you start your career, not where you stay. For some reason, I've been unable to get out of it. I have tried to move up within my current company into a QA position, with the hope of eventually moving into development. The problem is that I always here, “Well, you don't have much experience in the QA field.” So I'm unable to move into a QA position. As a result, I'm unable to move into a development role as well. I studied computed programing in community college here in Toronto, Canada, years ago, and I've also studied various programing languages on my own time. I've made two iOS apps this year as well, not published in the App Store though, and I'm also fairly good at programing in PowerShell. I feel stuck. I know what I want for myself, which is to work for myself. So my questions are:
After 11 years of being in the same role, would you also conclude that you're stuck in a particular field? Is it better to stay in a job you don't really like, because it's secure, or should I start my own business in something like mobile app development, or a type of IT consulting role, where I can use my programing skills?
Just a note, I think it would be really cool if you could make a future video on how IT people can start building their own networks. Okay, I will skip that part. And then he also asked me to answer the question sooner rather than later. I kinda screwed up on that part, sorry about that.
So let's see. Okay. I'm trying to think about what you should do in this situation. Now, you're stuck in some position, some role, for 11 years. It's time to move on and get another fucking job. It's time to be done with done. This is the thing, it's like a lot of you, you email me and you've been in the same situation for a long period of time, and maybe let's just take this at a bigger scope of life. If you're in the same situation for a long … and you don't like the situation, right? And you're not changing your environment, and you're not changing your actions, nothing is going to change. It's not just magically gonna get better. Like if you fall into a hole and you can't get out of the hole, and you look around and you're just waiting, you're not eventually gonna get out of the hole. You're gonna fucking die and you're gonna starve there, right? You're gonna be there of a long time, okay?
And that's the situation. Like when you've been somewhere for 11 years, and you're not moving up, and you've tried to go to QA, and you've tried to become a developer, and nothing's happening, it's time to move on, right? So many people … And this is one of the reasons why I highlighted this question, is because it's comfortable to stay where you are, even if it's not what you want. And that's the thing in life, is like comfort is the number one thing that human beings go after and that they make decisions based on. It's hard, it's bad, it's not a good way to live your life, but that's the number one thing. It's not … I mean we definitely avoid pain and we seek pleasure, but more so, what will override that system more than anything, is taking comfort, right?
And sometimes it's more comfortable to be in pain, right? What is that … It reminds me of that whole … that little saying where it's like this guy has this dog, and his neighbor comes over and he's like, “Hey, why is your dog … he's laying on the floor and he's just yelping every once in a while, what is going on?” And he said, “Oh, he's laying on the nail.” And he's like, “Why is he laying on a nail?” It's not painful enough for him yet. When it is, he'll move. And it's kind of funny, because you can live your whole life like that dog with nail, laying on the nail, when it's you're too lazy … like it's better to be comfortable, and just to have that pain, than it is to move out of the pain. So you gotta make a choice to move out of the pain.
Like I said, if you've been somewhere and you've been stuck there for 11 years, if you're not making progress, if you're not growing, you've gotta change the situation. You have to do something. You have to shake up things, and change your life, it's not just gonna happen. It's not just magically gonna happen, right? And so you've got options here. You've got options. One option, and probably the one I would take right at this point, is change the fucking environment. That's the easiest thing. Get out of the environment. Change the environment, change your life. Think about it, every time that you've moved, right? That you physically moved to a new house, to a new state, to a new location, did your life change? It did. You had a different life, right? You were just slightly a different person, because of the different life that you had.
And so if you're really … If you're stuck in a rut, you wanna change things up, change the environment. It doesn't mean you have to move. It doesn't mean you have to move across country, but maybe you do quit that job, maybe you do find another job, right? And that changes things, and it will change you, and it will shake things up, okay? So you can always change the environment.
Second, you can change what you're doing. So if you're doing the same things over and over again, and expecting different results, aside from a probability, right? Because there's definitely …. I think that old quote, that quote of being the definition of insanity, I don't think that's quite right. I think that you can do the same thing over and over again, you can get different results when you consider probability, but aside from that, right? If you're trying and nothing is changing, you need to change what you're doing, right? You need to take different actions, right? You need to change and develop yourself. It's just about acquiring skills. It's not just about becoming more technically proficient, and this is why I wrote my soft skills book, Soft Skills to Software Developers Life Manual, right? And even my other books, and how to market yourself as a software developer, I created that course, is because it's not just about gaining the technical skills, right?
You've gotta … And this is what this channel is about, is self-development, personal development, right? Working on yourself, because you've gotta grow and gotta change, because your external situation, right, your external environment will be influenced by who you are. In fact, you will attract what you are. If you want better, you have to become better. Right? So if you're getting the same old shit, it's because you are the same old shit. You need to change and stop being the same old shit. How do you do that? Go revitalize your life. Fucking go deep into personal development. Go to the gym and change your fitness and your health. Go and change your mindset. Go read some good books. I've got a ton of books, go look at my books reviews. Look at the playlist on the stuff that I have on this channel, and you'll find top list of best books, best personal development books, just all the books that I read, and you can find some good stuff there, okay? But you've gotta change something. You've gotta grow in some way, right?
And that's it. So my answer to this question is do something. Do fucking something. Right? You put some apps in the App Store, that's great. Now, you wanna start a business? Take a shot, go ahead. I mean here's the thing, it's like you can't get worse than your present situation. Yes, maybe you've got a comfy job and you've got a paycheck, but you've been stuck in the same … it's not even a high-level position, in the same low-level position for 11 years and nothing is happening, fuck take some risks. Take some chances. I don't care. You don't have much to loose, right? It's like you're the CEO of IBM, and you're like I'm bored, and I can't grow or advance, and then I'm like, “Hey, hey, maybe making a couple million dollars a year, just chill the fuck out dude. Like don't jeopardize that shit.” Like this is not that. You're like I'm a customer service person working this shit job in IT, and I'm afraid to take a leap, take a fucking leap. You got nothing to lose, right? And so many of you are in that situation. Right?
Even if you're in what might be a good situation to some people, you should still take risk, but especially if you're at the bottom of the totem poll, and you've tried everything, and you've been there and stuck for a long time, quit the job. Go get another job, go force yourself to change. Change your environment, change what you're doing, right? You've gotta make something happen. You're sitting in the hole, you're waiting for someone to throw down a rope. I did this video a while back that no one is coming to save you, but you're waiting for someone to throw rope down the fucking the hole and drag you out. It's not gonna happen. You're gonna be waiting for a millennium. You're gonna be waiting forever and it's never gonna happen. You're gonna be Hale–Bopp people waiting for the comet to come that doesn't come. The aliens don't come and pick you up, I'm sorry, it doesn't happen. Right?
All right. I hope that's helpful to you. If it is, make sure that you give a thumbs up, and click that subscribe button, if you haven't subscribed already. Click the ball so you don't miss any videos. I'll talk to you next time. Take care.

About the author

John Sonmez

John Sonmez is the founder of Simple Programmer and a life coach for software developers. He is the best selling author of the book "Soft Skills: The Software Developer's Life Manual."